The Cheating Experience - Part 1

I had wanted to do a post on something else but decided to write about this because social media seems to be on fire with this issue.

So the question now is, why do spouses/partners cheat? If we were to get the views of people we would definitely get different answers to this one question. But when confronted with this question, it is usually the same pattern with cheating partners. First comes denial, then accusations and then floods of apologies/ pleas.

My example for this post is going to be the 'cheating husband'. That is not to say that women don't cheat. Oh no! But we will look at that in another post.

The cheating husband would swear heaven and earth that it never happened, he never cheated. He would get upset and express his utter disappointment that you even believe he could do such a thing, probably make you feel bad for doubting his loyalty at all.

If and when you do have proof or evidence of his cheating and
he knows there is nowhere to run, he goes the route of accusing you of pushing him to do it. Even give you a sermon about how it was your fault he fell into temptation. Had you not said this and not done that or probably if you had said this or done that, he wouldn't have been forced to cheat. He would probably use the overflogged "It was the devil" line. Brother, please! Did he lead you by the hand and force you to do what you did? No, wait! Maybe he made her trip and land on your manhood.
Why blame someone for your own mistake? If you are man enough to do the crime, be man enough to do time. Simple!

Next thing you know, he is saying 'I am sorry'. But sometimes 'I am sorry' just doesn't do the trick. With issues of cheating surfaces betrayal. As we know, betrayal brings distrust and once trust is lost, it would take a lot more than apologies or gifts to survive.
How hard can it be to just take a step back, consider the situation and the implications and just say no. Why put your spouse/partner through the pain, humiliation and embarassment all for a brief period of pleasure that you probably could get at home? In the past I have asked a few male friends these questions and got answers like, 'Variety is the spice of life', 'My father did it. Why shouldn't I?' and 'Men were born to cheat'. Personally, I think variety can be found in one relationship. Role-playing could help add that spice. If you want to cheat, 'cheat on your wife with your wife' dressed up as a french maid today or a sexy nurse tomorrow. That is me with my little suggestion.

I will always say it, I am no expert in relationship matters but I do have 15 years of personal experience in that department and trust me, we have had our fair share of ups and downs. So from my little wealth of experience, I believe that in order to make a relationship work between two people there must be these things: communication, respect, acceptance, dedication, trust and a whole lot of patience and love.
Both parties must also agree not to make 'Mr Right' or 'Miss Right' out of their partner but make yourself right for each other; flaws and all.

And if temptation creeps its head, take a moment to evaluate the aftermath.